Substances that produce feelings of warmth in the chest, similar to love. These substances are, for example, alcohol, tobacco, heroin and drugs. When the vital need for love is answered using such substances, these substances become “vital” and we become addicted to them. Any substance that produces feelings of warmth similar to love reduces anguish, but produces also addiction. A typical example is provided by heroin. Heroin is described as “the cold lover” and consumers speak about their “honeymoon with heroin”. Heroin replaces the need for love and therefore leads to develop a strong form of addiction. Even alcohol causes feelings of warmth, similar to love, and can replace the need for love, causing addiction. Alcohol addiction starts, typically, when it is used to overcome feelings of emptiness and anguish, and this fact is unfortunately very widespread and common.

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